“The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.”
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Women say they want a Good Man but Are you a good Woman?
A lot of women say that they want a good man, a lot of female family members will say that their male relatives deserve a better woman. My question has always been if you think people deserve better in their relationships? Are you giving your best in yours? Are you a good woman or a good man! most of us are deluded, we want better for ourselves and yet we end up losing out for we fail to be better for someone else. Makes sense doesnt it.
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I was talking to a girlfriend last night who said that she wanted a Good man. I asked her if she thought she was a good woman. I picked up on several deficiencies that men might consider if they were ever going to take her seriously. We want the best people for our lives but are we working at bettering ourselves? I think that is one of the biggest problems we have and that is we want what we might not in the grand scheme of things truly deserve.
So many women want to qualify for Alpha males, rich men, successful men and popular men and yet want to come as they are and be accepted. There is nothing wrong with that but in reality, this world is competitive and there will always be people better or greater than you. Thus the emphasis on evolution, you must be in a constant state of improving yourself. Not that a banker won’t date a fast food worker providing that she is physically attractive and in so being that would be the exception to the rule and not the rule.
A lot of in laws are judgemental of the choices of their family members. They may believe that their sons or daughters deserve better but are they the best choices for their individual partners? Are the people who they idealize as the choice for their partners even interested in being with them. People want better but not doing anything to put themselves in positions to receive the best.
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Are we deserving of what it is that we seek in others, whether it be relationships or friendships. We hold people at higher ideal standards that we do ourselves, maybe we need to be more introspective and think about what we have been putting out, maybe therein lies the reason we have not been getting back the results that we desire. We might want better for ourselves but are we even good enough for the people that we want in our lives.
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