“The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.”
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Thursday, July 4, 2013
I am in a relationship but i still feel lonely...
Maybe your relationship had run the course and you are no longer feeling your man. Women are less inclined to walk away from a relationship especially if they are not sure how their single life will pan out. Some women are simply too scared to start over, to traverse the dating terrain over again and to risk heartache and exploitation. Our single friends are dying to be in a relationship but our married friends are hoping to find a way out of the misery of a monotonous life with a person you have known too long now.
Let's examine where you are at in this relationship? Do you care for your partner that you are often fearful of how a separation would affect your spouse. Then you may not be ready to be single. It maybe the tedium of the relationship that is getting to your head and you want a brief respite. Like Vacation where you can both reconnect with each other and have some fun. An escape from the boredom that is threatening to stifle your relationship.
What you can do in your relationship, is not to centre it around your man. Go out with friends and enjoy yourself. When we get frustrated and bored in relationship it is because the newness has rubbed off. We want back the excitement and the adrenaline rush of a novel meeting and not the complexities and intricacies of a long term relationship. This is the reason why some people cannot go past the dating phase, as things get serious or their partners begin to make demands on them, they disappear. It is not the good times that determines the strength of the relationship and but how you get through the bad times.