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“The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.”

— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie



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Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Men claim Sex is boring without oral sex

I don't have a problem with a freaky man. My only issue is that he be discriminate. You cannot just walk around putting your mouth under every woman's skirt. 

I think oral sex should not be compulsory in a coitus situation but i do believe that when someone decides to do something freaky in bed then it should be on their own terms. It should be by choice influenced by desires and emotion and not by duress. 

Most men want a woman to go down on them but they are reluctant to go down on a woman. A guy once said that he believes sex would be boring without oral sex. He thinks the ultimate sexual stimulation is by using the mouth and therefore considers all other forms of copulation tedious. 

A woman who has never tried oral sex is reluctant to do so because of the social stigma men have attached to it. Many men painted oral sex as in dignifying in the past and therefore have deterred many a self conscious woman from doing it. 

It is through the proliferation and endorsement of oral sex particularly through artiste like Vybz Kartel why women are no longer reluctant to try fellatio. Men on the other hand rarely admit to doing cunnilingus. 

Oral sex should be a matter of preference and offered without
Conditions or force because of love or desire. No one should use sex or any form as foreplay as a determinant for sex. 

It is immature for any man to believe that he can determine the sexual
Compatibility of any woman after having sex with her one time.

 As a female I can attest to the barage of feelings and thoughts with regards to body image and self consciousness that assuages a woman when she is suppose to sleep with man for the first time. 

A sexual experience must foster the bonds that were created during intersectional phase of the relationship sex is not meant to be a determinant of whether someone will be a good partner or candidate. It is a determining factor but only on a small scale. Many women would gladly sleep with a guy albeit his sexual
Performance is substandard and remain committed to him because his other attributes are so overwhelming. 

It is a sad reality but nine out of ten men determine whether or not they will stay with a woman after the first sexual experience. Nothing is wrong with a little experimental sex but it should be nondemanding. 

 Physical attraction does not equate to sexual attraction. Most men believe most women don't want a relationship they just want to have fun and therefore see sex as mainly recreational. 

Online pornography coupled with romantic idealism of movies has placed great pressure on couples pursuing a relation to fit the ideation of love in their minds. Men expect sex to be like what they see in porn and women expect a relationship to be like what they see in romantic movies. This leads to widespread disappointments because everybody is looking for that perfect partner and a ready made sex machine. 

Dating is a good phase to find out if one will be comfortable with another's sexual orientation. Ask questions and don't be afraid to veer into freaky areas to find our whether or not you would be comfortable having sex with this person. 

We cannot continue to form relationships hoping to find our ideals in others. We should exchange some the superficial spiel we discuss in the dating phase to find out where the other person's head is. Many women might not know this but a man decides within the first few minutes of talking to you whether or not he thinks you are worth pursuing. Women take longer to make up their minds. 

If a particular sexual orientation makes one uncomfortable it is ok to say no to a request for it. It is of little consequence to you if you are wealthy or educated because a man who is not sexually satisfied will no doubt be inclined to stray. 

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