Too much talking in Jamaica and no Action

I believe too much talk is what I preventing us from moving forward. Too much deliberation and not enough action.Too many people more concerned about getting the last talk and having others accept their opinions than presenting feasible and visionary course of actions. I read a lot forums online and see people denouncing crime and violence in Jamaica yet no one is

Putting their money where their

Mouth is. Everybody just love to talk. They haven't realize yet that is what evildoers have over those who want goodwill. Bad people don't just talk, they go out of their way to bring malevolence to those they see as ominous or oppressive. Good people remain passive, talkative in their own small groups but scared of their lives to ever stand up and voice what they really feel. It is ok to be afraid after all, we are only humans hanging on to this fragile thread of life that can be broken at any moment plunging us into permanent unconsciousness and eternal oblivion. So we give a little action and condemn the bad in our prayers hoping that our praying will buffer us from the aggression of the diabolical. If good people would exhibit even half of the tenacity and perseverance that the wicked muster when carrying out their nefarious acts then we would have a better world.

Sometimes I wonder if one of these days I will end up on the news. Portia Simpson Miller, promise minister of Jamaica says she does not watch the news. People were outraged when she made this disclosure but truth is I can somewhat agree with her point of view because watching the evening news makes me depressed. It seems like the news has always been the same thing since I was a child. Nothing had changed, the same old dispirited stories about the myriad of social maladies affecting our country. 

I wonder if one of these days I will watch the news and something truly interesting will be on. An occurrence that I can be proud of. I think people like Tessanne Chin and Usain Bolt should start making public denouncement of crime and violence. I believe we need a peace concert, a platform where the most influential people in Jamaica join hands under the aegis of wanting a better jamaica. The people with the influence should get involved and not only commend on crime for publicity reasons.

I often wonder if these parents and family members of those who harm others in our society do not see the error in their boyfriends, sons and relatives way. It is now a norm for people to boast of them bad man relative in order to intimidate or scare their enemies and rivals. Our troubles is bigger than just stomping out the bad hens, we need revamp of our familial system of values. You see when a little boy goes next door and pick apples without the neighbors consent and then when the neighbour insist that it is not good manners, the parent curse the neighbour. I believe that is where we went wrong, when we gave our children the impression that only family opinion of them count and that if the family was not speaking out against it then it is somewhat ok. As long as you not hurting your friends and family it is ok. You cannot raise a child to disregard the feelings and right of other people in a society because the child you raise will be the adult that everyone has to live with. The parent creates a criminal without even knowing it by giving the child the impression that he has every right to pick apples on someone else property without consulting them. The child is taught to overlook the nieghbours rights and that is where the beginning of our troubles lies. Too many children conditioned by parents to step on others outside of their familial lines. 

Bad people don't relent but good opeople hide in corners afraid of what might happen if they were ever assertive about wanting peace and justice. We know that those who ever wanted good often end up dead heroes. Look at Martin Luther King murdered because he wanted civil rights to be for every human being and not just a privilege for a few. You see it might not be the collective desire of many needed to engender your demise, it is many times the wish of a few bad apples and the willingness of one demonic soul to see your fall through. All it takes to throw the world into chaos, is just one wicked person, only in our human realities does darkness drives out the lights. 

What does justice mean to you?

We see justice differently in our society and many people like to swirl around blades of labels attached on those who hang on to the hapless metaphors of what consists our often biased and prejudicial existence. We might not say but it's clear to those who have the eyes to see that some of us are considered better off entombed and other mortals get to make that decision. 

Kahjeel Mais a passenger in a taxi was murdered by Patrick Powell, the driver of an X6 who reportedly flee the country after shooting at the taxi the Kingston College student was traveling in. I am yet to hear various sections of society decry this dastardly act and see the classism in how the shooter was on bail and the case perennially pushed back since 2011.

 When will Kahjeel Mais family get some justice? 

Kahjeel Mais life was not worth much and the claims by the defendant are that the driver was responding to a preconceived rumour that car theives often bad drove prospective victims and he had shot under the premise that they were trying to rob him and he did not know it was a taxi. Kahjeel Mais life was cut short and he continues his life with his family and friends as if nothing happened. 

I am not saying the shooter might not be experiencing conflicting emotions, maybe  remorse and hopes for some form of redemption but it highlights our frenzied concious beliefs than one life worths more than another. 

It is not only evident in Kahjeel Mais case but in case of the little girl who was shot and killed by a police officer while sitting on her step. The officer was chasing a man that was running away from him and shooting at him. Some "stray" bullet killed the little girl. 

 

Guns don't kill people. People kill people. Music alone does not create criminals, murderers are bled from broken homes with an erosion of family values. A police office friend of mine pointed to the young men in his community whom he has a great relationship with, I've known him my entire life. And he says look at these guys we grew up with, all us use to go to the same church and none of them we knowingly a gun man or bad man. He says bad parenting is what creates society's deviants. Parents who are more concerned about winning an argument than doing what they know is right and scolding a child who has offended another. For this reason we have adults who don't care about anyone outside of their family and friends. It's not just a ghetto people thing, it's an everybody thing. 

I respect the artiste but not a criminal

 I don't know if Kartel is going to be acquitted. But one thing I know is he is a talented artiste. As smart as I am I won't hesitate to admit that I AM a  huge Vybz Kartel the Artiste Fan and would very much like to see him free. I interviewed him at sumfest 2010 along with Movado and they were the most humble dudes to me. I've got male families and I know how tough these streets can be so I respect the hustle of every male who use their 

 Game or talent to get out there. Kartel may have corrupt the youths but they supported him because his songs were what they wanted to hear all along. Music celebrating freedom of lifestyle, choice and sexuality.  Kartel is not the music. The music is the society and the society is in the music. 

I won't vouch for whether or not he is a murderer because honestly I don't know the man like that. I speak for Vybz Kartel the Artiste not Adidjah Palmer the man. If he is found guilty of the crime by the verdict of his peers then he should do the time....

None of us is above the law. The law cannot be prejudicial to wealthy people or celebrities. Once the law is broken and we are found guilty then we must serve our sentences. 

Sometimes I think back and wonder why Vybz Kartel was so foolish to begin with to put himself in such a compromising position. It may seem like a conspiracy but  he allowed it to be believable by perpetrating acts that rendered it true. Understanding his fragile position in society and how many ethical pundits blame him for the moral decay of this society, he should have opted to walk a very straight line. 

His incarceration will have a grae impact on Dancehall but the music will live on as the likes of Alkaline , Koshens and I octane will continue to light the torches. I hope Vybz Kartel's parody is a lesson to other celebrities who might feel that they are above the law that Jamaica is working hard to build a level of integrity in its crime fighting struggle. We are living in an era where as we slip  we fall... It pays to live you life on a straight line not filled with doubts and compromising fall outs. 

Men claim Sex is boring without oral sex

I don't have a problem with a freaky man. My only issue is that he be discriminate. You cannot just walk around putting your mouth under every woman's skirt. 

I think oral sex should not be compulsory in a coitus situation but i do believe that when someone decides to do something freaky in bed then it should be on their own terms. It should be by choice influenced by desires and emotion and not by duress. 

Most men want a woman to go down on them but they are reluctant to go down on a woman. A guy once said that he believes sex would be boring without oral sex. He thinks the ultimate sexual stimulation is by using the mouth and therefore considers all other forms of copulation tedious. 

A woman who has never tried oral sex is reluctant to do so because of the social stigma men have attached to it. Many men painted oral sex as in dignifying in the past and therefore have deterred many a self conscious woman from doing it. 

It is through the proliferation and endorsement of oral sex particularly through artiste like Vybz Kartel why women are no longer reluctant to try fellatio. Men on the other hand rarely admit to doing cunnilingus. 

Oral sex should be a matter of preference and offered without

Conditions or force because of love or desire. No one should use sex or any form as foreplay as a determinant for sex. 

It is immature for any man to believe that he can determine the sexual

Compatibility of any woman after having sex with her one time.

 As a female I can attest to the barage of feelings and thoughts with regards to body image and self consciousness that assuages a woman when she is suppose to sleep with man for the first time. 

A sexual experience must foster the bonds that were created during intersectional phase of the relationship sex is not meant to be a determinant of whether someone will be a good partner or candidate. It is a determining factor but only on a small scale. Many women would gladly sleep with a guy albeit his sexual

Performance is substandard and remain committed to him because his other attributes are so overwhelming. 

It is a sad reality but nine out of ten men determine whether or not they will stay with a woman after the first sexual experience. Nothing is wrong with a little experimental sex but it should be nondemanding. 

 Physical attraction does not equate to sexual attraction. Most men believe most women don't want a relationship they just want to have fun and therefore see sex as mainly recreational. 

Online pornography coupled with romantic idealism of movies has placed great pressure on couples pursuing a relation to fit the ideation of love in their minds. Men expect sex to be like what they see in porn and women expect a relationship to be like what they see in romantic movies. This leads to widespread disappointments because everybody is looking for that perfect partner and a ready made sex machine. 

Dating is a good phase to find out if one will be comfortable with another's sexual orientation. Ask questions and don't be afraid to veer into freaky areas to find our whether or not you would be comfortable having sex with this person. 

We cannot continue to form relationships hoping to find our ideals in others. We should exchange some the superficial spiel we discuss in the dating phase to find out where the other person's head is. Many women might not know this but a man decides within the first few minutes of talking to you whether or not he thinks you are worth pursuing. Women take longer to make up their minds. 

If a particular sexual orientation makes one uncomfortable it is ok to say no to a request for it. It is of little consequence to you if you are wealthy or educated because a man who is not sexually satisfied will no doubt be inclined to stray. 

My life experience...

My entire life since my birth has been influenced by my experiences. These occurrences shapes the way I see this world and whether I choose to be good or bad is inherently my choice and how I interpret the meaning of these experiences and use them as guides for my life. 

I don't like to talk about politics because I am ashamed of my political positions in the past. I will say that when it comes to Jamaicab politics it is unfair that there are people waiting at the lines for the start of each person's lives waiting to destroy your faith in a wholesome life with lies and promises.

It was just the other night that I was asked why I voted for a particular party. I said I needed the fringe benefits which from all accounts were unforthcoming. In my estimation I was used by party activist to fuel their own ends and needs. They kept any "benefits for themselves". 

The concept of a good life is esoteric to many average Jamaicans like myself and it should not be but it is. We would like to be responsible for our individuals lives but we cannot because politics and societal values creates the premise on the value of our lives reinforced by their policial orders.