Stop Hating on Other women because You cannot get a Man!

Women love to tear each other down… correction, insecure women love to tear other women down. This slandering usually happens in their head, in front of their keyboard, or behind that rival woman’s back when in the company of a fellow hater. I saw one of these shade throwing memes on instagram… we all know basic bitches push out slander memes like hood chicks push out fatherless children. This one went something like “These men say they want a Bad Bitch, when they should be after a woman that takes cares of her responsibilities blah blah blah something about goals blah blah blah something about education” At that moment it dawned on me that I’ve never seen a woman that’s happy (not Facebook happy, real life happy) and content focus on what men say they want in another woman. I’ve spent time with extremely successful females and I can’t recall a side-comment being made about fake hair or ass shots. Only when I turn to the internet do I see so much animosity by women directed at other women and the men who choose them. Confident women don’t have time to comment, they’re too busy concentrating on what’s most important—self! The Seattle Seahawks don’t release a statement when the Miami Dolphins pick up a player, because winners don’t acknowledge losers. Those with nothing to do always have something to say, and it’s time someone called these people off the porch.

Show me a lonely girl with a Wi-Fi connection, a dry phone, and a pussy that hasn’t been ate since Chrissy was on Love & Hip Hop and I’ll show you a hater. These bitter Basica’s develop insomnia trying to rally the internet around their, “Niggas ain’t shit” pity party and “These hoes holding us back” campaign. In reality the only one holding these girls back are their attitudes. Still, these type of women are quick to roll their eyes and hiss, “What I got to be jealous of.” Okay, if you want to play dumb and not take a hard look in the mirror, I’m going to tell you exactly what you’re jealous of. You think you deserve what other women have based on the fact that you are you, but when you do an assessment of your love life, you don’t have what they have, you have Netflix and Snapchat, and that bothers the fuck out of you.

Kermit-shadeYou went to college—you deserve dick and flowers. You have a career—you deserve dick, flowers, and a commitment. You don’t have sex fast and love Jesus—you deserve dick, flowers, commitment, and an engagement ring. Wake the fuck up, pridezilla! Nobody in this world is going to pat you the fucking back except the people that raised you. When it comes to dating, men don’t give a fuck about your 401K, your GPA, or if you were born a water sign. He’s looking at you thinking what makes you worth keeping, and unfortunately for you book smart overachievers, those intangibles can’t be learned in a classroom. These seemingly low caliber women in their crayola leggings and colored contacts probably can’t read a book aloud without butchering words. However, before your pass judgment on those women who are supposed to be your sisters, recognize what she can do is attain the attention of every man in the room and keep it, and that’s a trait that takes a lot more than ass size and weave length. If you take pride in your accomplishments then be happy with the academic or career level you’ve reached, but don’t launch your credentials as if you’re supposed to get a reserved seat at Club Chose. Men don’t choose the best resume; they choose the best character that matches their own.

What it ultimately boils down to is that some women try to think like men in order to guess what a man really wants. HA! Women are even shallower than men when it comes to looks, but of course they are much more willing to reward if he’s attractive in other areas. Job security, ambition, goals, education, loyalty, spiritual connection, those can upgrade a man in a woman’s book. Therefore, when these ladies that I’m referring to think about what men SHOULD want, they assume they are after those same things. Logically a man can want eye candy, but he should be just as concerned with those positives I just listed as well. However, as a man I know that shit is far from the truth. Men don’t give extra brownie points for any of that shit. I’ve dined with goons and executives alike, and when we get into our “boys only” talks about pussy, no one brings up “her lofty goals and ambitious drive really makes my dick hard.” Is she charismatic, does she look good, can you handle herself in a back and forth conversation without sucking her teeth? That’s worth more than all the oil in Iraq. Men, real men not the new niggas y’all bum around with who are looking for sugar mamas, know that they get or will get money, so a woman getting money is not that big on the list. If she can help up his stock, great, but unless a man is an opportunist he’s not trying to use his girl for her connects, because he can create his own. What I’m driving at is that as long as I’ve been writing BGAE, a vast majority of women still don’t get how quality men actually think and choose their women. They expect special treatment because they aren’t ratchet, aren’t Hoish, and don’t have children, then get angry with other women who they view as lesser pull off “miracles” in the man department. For the last time, I’m going to break down how this world spins, and please, no matter how many times you want to roll your eyes, keep them motherfuckers on the screen because you may miss something that the girl you want to direct that Kermit meme towards already figured out.


Why are you being passive aggressive about women getting bae’d up unless there were serious bae envy going on? Bae envy exists because there is allegedly such a huge man drought that women get in their feelings when they can’t land a Is Shit nigga. Let’s tackle the subject of extremely good looking, seemingly well adjusted, and gainfully employed men, because those are the ones that cause the animosity. If your first thought was, “Shit, where you find those at.” Then log the fuck off. Yes, they exist and after me drilling in the mantra of You Must Chris Brown Proof Your Pussy, women still can’t Spartan Up around a pretty dude. There is an epidemic where women lower their standards as to how they need to be treated in order to date, fuck, or commit to a man that has Super Saiyan Swag. Women go from Oprah to Oh we don’t have to go out, we can order in, so they won’t drive that man away. You refer to a man as “not all that” in your head, then treat him as if he came out of Princess Kate’s vagina. Why? Because you want him to want you, so you can finally be happy! If you don’t do those things, you are convinced that a man that fine or successful will leave you right where he found you. Fear of being cut off makes you paranoid when you date these men, it makes you depressed when you get passed up by these men, and ultimately leaves you bitter when you see other women flaunt these men as their own.


Women blackmail themselves. When confronted with a guy they like, they downgrade their power and submit without that dude even testing her gangster. I’ve talked to multiple girls who have fucked as soon as a guy tested her dick discipline because those men happened to be a few steps above the other guys that she had been attracting, and didn’t want them to lose interest. These men aren’t doing anything special, yet girls are tripping over themselves to accommodate them because they are afraid other women will slide in. My response to that is: Why the fuck are you worried about the next bitch? If you think he’s sexy, at least a handful of other women in your community will feel the same, and half of them will fuck him just for being thoughtful enough to speak. SO WHAT!?! I don’t care if you live in Atlanta or any other city where Women outnumber men, you can’t ever blackmail yourself into doing the most to keep a man’s attention because there are other women breathing down his neck. My friend posted a picture of herself looking into a reflection and it read “My only competition.” That level of confidence and security is more sexy than any Thot-Fit you’ll ever see Rihanna wearing. Know who the fuck you are, and stop keeping score on the dick that other women are getting! If what you present in terms of personality when dating him isn’t enough to make him choose you over them, then he’s not who you should be with. Fucking him fast, breaking your next to go see him, being overly understanding, or biting your tongue when he disrespects you—those are weak bitch traits!

dont-hateCompetition for men is the main reason women can’t stand women. It’s not her fault if she got chose, and you are driving at 3am to bring him food because you are trying to get chose. Men are going to pick the woman they want to pick, and you dick desperate women are making it easy for him to side with other women because you aren’t a challenge. Even a guy who knows he looks good is at the mercy of those women that agree to slide off their underwear. Unlike girls, men can’t walk in the room, grab a chick by the hand, and hit that. We aren’t that powerful, yet for some reason you all think that’s the case. If a man is given a choice of a woman that bends over backwards, submits, and lets him move the ball up and down her field with no defense, he’s not going to say, “Damn, Shawna is a really nice woman, she really cares about me and never trips like the rest of these birds.” He’s going to use you until he can’t use you anymore. True love will never sprout unless you earn a certain level of respect! What’s so hard to understand about this? Let him sit there and gas you about how different you are and how he can see his self with a woman like you. In reality, he’s on the phone with a nigga like me telling me how you gave him the keys to your crib and he’s trying to decide if he should bring TayTay or ReRe over to the casa while you’re working the night shift. I’ve seen it from both sides of the fence, trust me, exploitation is real if you don’t set your boundaries and show these men your Power.

I will admit that a lot of men go into that ain’t shit mode when trying to get some… but I’m not even going to put it all on the ain’t shitness of men. If you bend over backwards, dumb down who you were raised to be, and allow a man to pull your strings because he looks better than your last four boyfriends than you deserve to get fucked. People are brought into your life for three things: To make you stronger by testing the areas where you are weak. To show you love in the times where you need it the most. To advance you from a level where you’ve learned all you can, and usher you onto the next. If you are a woman that’s constantly having her kindness exploited as weakness, then you need to thank that loser ass nigga for making you stronger. You can sit around and cry, threaten to go lesbian, or hate that girl who he ended up with your boo after you, but that doesn’t strengthen you. I have no sympathy for strong women who continuously revert to weak bitches as soon as they get good dick and great conversation. From the womb to the tomb, the reason you go through struggles is to understand what your flaws and improve upon them. If you aren’t evolving, then you’re wasting your life.

No Man Is An Exception

dick worshipI hate hearing, “but he’s different” because I hear that shit all the time. If your bae is different and her FWB is different and her situationship boo is different… then who the fuck is normal? He’s only different because he makes you thirst harder than you’ve ever thirsted before in your life. It’s not magic, it’s infatuation that leads to paranoia and makes you want to stalk his social networking pages and drive by his job to see if his car is in the parking lot. Some women are sneaky, and the reason I’m always answering the question, “How do I get my power back in the relationship” is because females know they fucked up when they rolled over for a man early in the relationship. You let him come in and own you, thinking that once those other women were no longer a threat, you would then show him who you really were—a strong independent woman who doesn’t take shit from no man! That motto may be your Twitter bio, but it damn sure isn’t who you are when that nigga is standing in front of you like, “Fuck you, I don’t have to come over anymore.” You can’t be half a Spartan! Let these dudes know that real women don’t react, they replace! Why are you sitting around worried about him not calling you or taking his talent’s to Keisha’s house? You can get another man, but you can’t get your dignity back, so decide what’s most important.

thirst pirateIf you know your personality can be a bit over bearing or that you’re hardened from past relationships, of course you tone it down when you’re getting to know a new person. Everyone fakes it on the first date, but to fake your way into a relationship as if you’re Suzie Simple is a lie that will have you stuck in that role for the duration of the relationship. A man’s biggest complaint is that women switch-up. Men cheat, distance themselves, or break it off because they don’t like the new you. That’s not a new you, it’s the real you trying to break free of the little girl personality you put on to keep him from choosing the next chick over you. Stop being slaves to dick as if men aren’t born every day, this shit is disgusting! None of these men are so special that you need to hide the woman you were born to be. No matter how bad you want a guy that looks like him and acts like him, you have to be willing to show your true self and trust that the personality you bring to the table be that corny, goofy, serious, or even ratchet is good enough. Either you are compatible or you aren’t compatible, never dumb down for a man to win him over or regret the person you are because you failed to win him over. Every key doesn’t fit every lock, and that’s a good thing because the shape you get yourself into mentally while going from lock to lock is what’s going to prepare you to appreciate what’s on the other side of the door when you finally find your match. You want love and you want it sooner than later because everyone seems to be lapping you in the love department, but I implore you to stop running the next woman’s race, and focus on your own journey.


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`Our Black Men's Obsession with Guns

Young Black and the Obsession with Gun Culture.

I have this theory that the Black Man's obsession with gun stems from their ancestral days in Africa when tribal leaders sold out their weaker neighbors into slavery for Guns and Ammunition. It is within my opinion that this is where the black's man association with gun as an emblem of power began. This is probably the reason why all if not most black men believe that in order to feel truly powerful or validated in their societies, they must possess, boast of or handle a gun. Even in modern day civil unrest in areas such Somalia and Rwanda, it is shameful to see how black men readily in complete ignorance and barbarism unite under the leadership of a gun toting, narcissistic leader and kill their own. Gun as a symbolism of power is probably " One of the Ghost in our Genes".



Perhaps our men's love for guns started on the Sugar plantation when they lost countless revolts because the militia had firearms and they did not. They somehow thought that if they had arms that they could overthrow the militia. Maybe if we browse through history we would see that in civil unrest, poor black people lose and chalked down their disadvantage to not having enough guns. Let us look at the Morant Bay Rebellion, Civil Rights Movement and recently Tivoli Gardens unrest. Somewhere in West Kingston some young thug is saying maybe, just maybe if we had more guns we would have won the war. It might explain the cycle crime," kill one today and next year ten more rise up. "


I have another theory that points to rumors of politically affiliated individuals arming our young men in garrison communities. These are merely supposition but when you bring guns instead of books to a community, you are not hoping to build knowledgeable, civil and unified people. We have pointed our children in the wrong way.

Some hypothesized that our young men's obsession and glorification of guns stems from a low self esteem and a need for social validation. What does a person value most? His life and the man who takes life is feared and revered for he deals with a side of humanity that most find unthinkable. Gangsters are idolized in movies and maybe our boys want to be idols in their own worlds. It strange how each of us search for something to make our lives worthwhile. Some end up searching for purpose on the path to destruction.

Gun seems to be aplenty in black societies more than food and books, i keep thinking how a place like Haiti riddled by poverty and yet guns are there in plenitude. It is strange that guns have destroyed black communities than build them up but who am i kidding we know that gun does not kill people, people kill people. I can only imagine what a world we would have if some black men were more interested in securing a book for possession, if the idea of going to school took precedence over hanging out on the corner. If our men did not think that the ability to be violent is the only way to identify and affirm their manhood. Black man have been brainwashed to seek substance in the wrong things.

I once suggested to a friend in a conversation about violence in our country and in black communities around the world that what if we had a policy that made it mandatory for our boys to be enlisted in the army? Their enrollment would include a brief sting in some hostile region of the world. I would love to see how many of our so-call "bad men" would be interested in such a expedition. I bet some of these terrorist are only interested in brandishing guns on defenseless, helpless and unsuspecting people. They could not manage a real war but "real badman" have no disinclination about hurting unarmed citizens who cannot defend themselves.

What can save us?

Education is the most powerful weapon one can use to change the world said Nelson Mandela. I am not talking our mis-education that we chase in order to improve status and to boast on our less informed denizen. A philosophical education that seeks to transcend our societies. An education that liberates the people in our communities. Too many people pursuing education for the wrong reason and when education does not brook " the easy life" they envision, they revert back to their old ways. A man not educated in morals is no education at all. This "wash up" version of education we are receiving is the reason education has not engendered the results we hoped for. Maybe if we could teach our youngsters that our people did not lose because they lacked access to guns but because they were disorganized, ill-prepared and sometimes betrayed in the past. Maybe if we taught them that no one wins in a war, that it is okay for someone to disagree with your opinion and that sometimes it is better to walk away from fight. We encouraged unity instead of competition and tribalism then we could finally get somewhere. Proper access to relationship is vital to advancing society.

Quote: To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society.

Crystal Evans
Blogger/Writer
Jamaica

The Black Version of Success

This is something that I am personally aware of and has been my experience with people thinking that if you are black and rich, you are not an athlete rapper or some form of academia then it means that you must be involved in something illegal. It might seem at first glance that the only people making money in this economy are fraudsters, corrupt officials, money launderers and white collar criminals. The slow trickle down of money to those who are working hard, gives the impression that only black people involved in criminal activities are successful. What does that say about those who hold that view and what does that say about the black man's notion of success?

A rapper once said “even in you are in a suit and in benz” you are liable to be perceived as a career criminal first than anything else. It may seem that black people are accustom to overwhelming failure within our ranks that we believe the only way out has to be going on a path to destruction. It maybe because we measure success using rather high ideals. It does not matter how much you have accomplished in your individual struggles or life, your success is disregard if it is not materialized in dollars and cents. In other words if you are not driving some high end vehicle and flossing in the club then your success is treated with indifference. Success in today's world is celebrated only if it is commercialized.

A number of a older men in my small black community see success as the ability to put food on their table. Therefore these men will plant ground provisions in the hills so that they will have yams, banana and vegetables to sell to people like me. I support them for i know that they just want food on their table. It is not that they would not want to have a mansion and opulent cars but they have resigned themselves to accept their lives as it is and one claims that as long as he has a roof above his head and food to eat then he is quite okay. He values his freedom and his life that he will never allow the pursuit of wealth to send him to prison or "land him in a Grave".

My peers are of a different perspective, " Get Rich or Die Trying" they say. They refuse to sit by or follow the traditional routes to success which from their perspective is the accumulation of money and luxuries to enhance their living conditions. Some of our young men have a distinct idea of what success should be. They want to be superstars. They want to live like Lil Wayne and Chris Brown. Nothing is wrong with wanting to be a famous millionaire, it is just that these boys want it now. They want it overnight. They want a 'lottery kinda success' and this is what gets them into trouble. They do not want to spend the rest of their lives like their fathers cutting cane, working in the construction or hotel industry and end up dying a pauper. They want out!

It is a serious issue since our young men lack with the resources and opportunities to fulfill their aspirations often turn to other less noble means. An average man on the street is offended by the academical success of one of his peer and yet easily celebrates the sudden acquired rich status of those within his own cache. I have seen it a dozen times, “hype” people getting more attention and recognition than those who are working hard to pave the way for our advancement. It may mean that education is such a struggling path to success especially with many who cannot afford the college tuition. The man who "hustles" and gets rich gives these poor young boys hope that one can still be a superstar without getting any form of certification or education.

Some are of the opinion that coming out of slavery, these western societies did not prepare for the freedom and advancement of a black nation or its citizenry. Blacks were not initially expected to become a success but to be chained to the subservience and indignity they were originally brought to the Americas for. We are expected to fail from the get go for we are children of the soil.

Many Jamaican parents encourage children to pursue traditional employment such as the teacher, doctor or lawyer with scant regard for other careers especially ones that encourage entrepreneurial skills, innovation and invention. If a child says he/she wants to become a chemist so that he can make paper from trees, a black parent is nine out of ten times likely to discourage that child stating it is better to choose an orthodox career. We now have a nation of graduates with certifications waiting on someone else to provide jobs for them because they were socialized to pursue a job and not to create one.

Now Today's parents are ashamed of their twenty one year old who lives at home and does not own a high end vehicle like the neighbor's son with little regard for the way in which the neighbor's son might have procured his luxury vehicle. The child is considered unaccomplished despite the fact that he is an an artist and sells his paintings on the beach in Negril while an entire community glorifies his peer because he has money and therefore appears successful. Parent's have redefined success. Communities on a small scale have decided who deserves commendation and the standard for success. The social currency for advancement is no longer about how many hurdles one crossed to make it to the top, in fact ones does not need to be at the top, one simply needs to have money and live like those at the top.

We blame our children for this 'money over everything culture' that traps our young men in a cycle of imprisonment and death, we say they have bad values, but who taught them that success is centrally about making money? A lot of elders complain that they do not know what is wrong with today's black generation. I beg to ask them what was wrong with theirs? Children don't become what you want, they become who you are. Our elders should reflect upon what went wrong during the era when today's young adults were children. Maybe just maybe they might find the answers to the problems of this "generation". They raised a world of children who know the price of everything but the value of nothing. A money grabbing, instant gratification over profundity seeking and "step pon them" culture of people.Too many of us are invested in a perpetual need to be accepted by those at the top and we go about it the wrong way and thus have changed what true success is in the grand scheme of things . We need to find a way to merge our aspirations, build and foster success so that we no longer associate success with criminality.

Crystal Evans
Writer/Blogger
Jamaican

Children of the Jamaican Working Class

Ideas from Book: Children of the Jamaican Working Class 

Copyright © 2014 

Superstition, farming, career choice, bang belly politics, Jamaican love them belly than anything else, individualize politics, everybody a grope. Siddung a qait pon politician or family member fe buss you. 

Unity- education for everyone, help and support each other. 

Get Rich Quick mentality-super star life, sit down a wait pon a buss mentality. Fahrin. No amount of wishful thinking is gonna change Jamaica. Get off your asses and go chase your dreams. Embrace a "only dead can prevent me" from achieving mindset. 

Too much chatting, ppl on forums online in groups and pages yapping away and when the trumpet sound for action, investment and resources, everybody either don't have the time, claim their resource is too little to share or sit down and wait for someone else to pave the way. Too many opinions with little action. 

It is not lack of opportunities, resources or investment that has stymied JAmaica's growth but willpower. If we could empower our people to move forward then we could reach somewhere but in this economic drought, the average man cannot concentrate on anything else but his individual survival. 

Cut down on the bling.... Spending all that money trying to impress people who don't like you. A lot of parents say times are hard and yet daddy always have money to visit the Bar and mommy always decked out in expensive garb and hairstyle. Children cannot go to school because there is not sufficient disposable income to allow for mommy and daddy flamboyant lifestyle and a child's education. Then these children lacking the mental resources to contribute to their society become a detriment all because then parents never get them priority straight! 

This free culture a kill we. Everybody want freebies. Free this and Thot. We won't even support our musicians, artiste, designers and writers, we would rather Jamaicans give away products made by Jamaicans and we spend our hard earn money on international brands. How are we going to build this country when we will not become self sufficient. When you buy from the designer? The money he gets, he will use to go to the market and support the farmer, the car dealer, save a little in the bank so you can get it to borrow, buy something from the young boy pushing the cart hence keeping him out of trouble, out of jail and perhaps a grave. 

The designer will be able to send his children to school and their education will ensure that we have a better future for our children. The more educated citizens we have, the brighter the future will be. 

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Ten Dating Concepts for jamaican WOmen

Ten Dating Concepts for Jamaican Women.

I am a female so i write from a female viewpoint. To write from a male perspective will be purely assumptive. I don't want to assume i know how MEN think. Remember am judging a man from his behavior not his intentions. therefore my points maybe faulty but consistency is the key. Once someone is continuously displaying a certain behavior then it will be interpreted as his honest intentions, no rationalizing around that.
Be realistic about your dating situation females. It means that you can find someone attractive, you might be dating someone but it does not mean it will lead to a relationship. The minute you begin to romanticize the situation, you create emotions that do not exist in reality and if things do not come out the way you want it, you are crushed. If you build up your expectations, it makes you vulnerable.




1. Consistency is essential. So when he says he is gonna call, He should call and not ten days later. If he is not calling then he has 'two' much on his plate or he is just not that into you.

2. A woman can pursue a man. Engage him, even spend money on a date but should expect some form mirroring. You cannot be putting in everything and he is not making any effort. You investing eighty in the relationship while he grudgingly ( after some argument) gives you twenty is a recipe for resentment and disappointments.

3. If you just started dating someone and it
feels like work. You are frustrated, angry, unsure and uncomfortable then it means you need some time off from that situation. Work with your instincts, you know more than you think you do. If your relationship or date is stressing you out then you need to call it quits.

4. Ladies say this aloud. I don't want you if you only want me for yourself. Sometimes you think you like someone but what you really like is the idea of them, what they represent , a figment of a fantasy. To find out if your affections are grounded in reality. Take a step back and allow destiny to take its course.
5. Don't sleep with men to make them fall in love with you. Sex is your bargaining power, once you give that away you no have nothing fe bargain with. Stop falling in love with the idea of a relationship. Whatever issues you having with him, sex won't fix it, if it is good he will come around when he wants it an still not give himself to you. A man can be very intimate with you and still never give into you. He is not in love, he is just a good lover.

6. Never feel bad for walking away from a bad relationship. A woman normally walk away when she try too many times to make it work. If you stayed you woulda feel worst, trapped and bitter with someone who under appreciate you. Best to try with someone new.

7. Love without expectation. When you meet someone it is not a good idea to cut off other men become exclusive to the idea of a relationship. Still keep seeing other people, keeps your grounded in the reality of your feelings and filters some of the wistful romantic fantasies in your head. Too many times women develop feelings for a fantasy and not for the man but do not necessarily know the difference.

8. Going clubbing and Partying might be a good way to meet someone new but in reality most men who go out to these events are "hunting". They are looking someone to take home. Try looking for a partner at some other events that do not include liquor, rowdy crowd and raunchy music. Try some other social scenes where you can run into people who might share you passions.

9. If you do not want a man. Do not take his money. Do not encourage him in any way. Be polite but firm and say that you are not interested. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you do not want him. Do not lead him on. It could lead to your own demise.

10. It is equally your responsibility to make your dating experience fun.
If you develop a mindset where you want to sit and wait for someone else to do something to make you feel blissful on your date then you are in for disappointments. Do your part and the rest will fall in place and if it doesn’t, then it was not meant to be. Your attitude should be “regardless of what happens, i will try to enjoy myself”, a positive attitude will encourage positive results.
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