Ten ways to know you are his side chick

10. HIS PHONE NEVER RINGS Or is never even visible. Think about it, you’re with someone all day and not ONCE has his phone rang or buzzed. It may be on silent or off and they may even use the excuse that they’re “giving you their full attention” but regardless it’s suspicious that in these times we live in where our phones are our lifelines and he’s not using his around you. 9. MY PHONE’S ABOUT TO DIE You’ve heard or even used this excuse before. The age old “sorry I’m sorry I’ll call you back in a few my phones dying.” How is it that about 90% of the time you try to reach him, his phone is on the brink of death but when you’re with him its never being used. 8. HE REPEATS HIMSELF One of the main things liars do is repeat themselves, simply because they can’t keep up or remember who they told what to. To be safe, they have 2 options. Either he can ask you if he told you about blah blah OR he can repeat his lie into existence. 7. HIS COMPLIMENTS ARE ALL PHYSICAL If the only thing he has to say about you is how sexy you look or how fat that ass is….yea. Try having an intelligent conversation with him and if all he can say after is “your lips are so juicy”, chances are you aren’t the chick he listens to. 6. NO SPONTANEITY All your dates are scheduled in advance. There’s never a chance for a last minute rendezvous because he’s got you booked when his main girl is busy. 5. DATES ARE CLOSER TO YOU THAN HIM If you’ve never been to any vicinity close to his place of work or home theres a reason he’s keeping you away from there. Next time you’re out with him suggest a place close to his home and see what he says. 4. HIS TWEETS ARE VAGUE He can either be a very private person and doesn’t like anyone knowing who he is dating or a scumbag with DMs that are more popping than an AOL Chatroom in ’99. 3. YOU CAN NEVER LEAVE ANYTHING IN HIS APARTMENT Are you crazy, “make sure you have everything before you go” as he looks around the room frantically cleaning up all evidence. 2. HE’S NEVER DISAPPOINTED WHEN YOU CANCEL ON HIM Any man that really has an interest in you will care if you can’t make it out on the date. He’s thinking you can’t come? no problem...texts the next chick. I like to refer to her as the side chick understudy. 1. IT’S VALENTINES DAY AND YOU’RE NOT WITH HIM. Sorry boo, hate it had to be you but YOU’RE THE SIDE CHICK. http://dickwet.com/2013/02/14/10-ways-to-know-if-youre-the-side-chick/

why women cant sleep around? Unfair world

Now a man will take a good girl And he'll ruin her reputation But when he wants to marry Well, that's a different situation He'll just walk off and leave her To do the best she can While he looks for an angel To wear his wedding band dolly parton song so this is why men sleep around they are studs but when we do it we are sluts. I have said this countless times that a guy cant use me unless i want him to. Everybody has the exact life that they want. Some people ask me why do i stay with my man even though i can get a wealthier or more handsome partner. The truth is, The naked truth is that my man has saved me from much of the heart toiling that is going on in the single realm. I am not saying that women should settle either but i hate to see what my single girlfriends are going through just to get a man to stick around. Women running up their bed post with names on top of useless nomenclature. Putting so much mileage on that kitty cat for nothing, Don't ruin your Bed Post space up with male numbers and pubic hair. It will come back and haunt you later. SLEEPING AROUND IS RECKLESS BEHAVIOR AND IT EXPOSES ONE TO DISEASES.Moreover one might get pregnant and no one wants to own that child because of your promiscuous lifestyle. If you were a good girl to begin with then no man would question the paternity of your child. We need to look for men who are thinking about a serious relationship and not just a one night interlude. And the truth is we women sometimes know this man is just taking any girl who is available for some sexual pleasure and disposing of her unceremoniously afterwards. The one's who in spite of telling him you are in a committed relationship, continues to call you and insist that you copulate with him. Having little or no regard for how this might affect your life if this indiscretion was discovered by your partner. He does not care about you, a man who is serious will insist that you leave your man before you sleep with him. He will be particularly discriminate when he is looking for a permanent relationship. Back to my SINGLE women sleeping around these days... Andrew Wildes puts it the best way here on his blog " What I have been trying to get at from the start (and will continue to) is that men thinking about a one woman setup, think very differently than men who can and will take one girl along with a whole bunch. The second man is less discriminating because he doesn't really care, the other guy can be sometimes unrealistically discriminating - that's because of how much he cares." The first step in minimizing this pathology is knowing when to say no to a man sexual advances. Dont sleep with him because he drives a nice car or you are hoping to get some money from him. If you feel and we normal do know that he is only interested in adding another notch in his belt then you need to step it. Men who are not genuine often leave you feeling repugnant, furious or downright anxious and unsure of your next move with him. If you are feeling this way then you are in a losing situation. If he means you any good. He will chase you to Timbuktu! Don't sleep with a man who you surmise or from all given indications is just not that into you. If he never calls or text or BBM it means he is busy elsewhere. HE hasn't contacted you because he doesn't have anything to say to you or frankly doesn't want to talk to you. You see whenever i go somewhere before the night is out or if i overstay longer that i am suppose to, my beau calls. He cares about me hence he wants to make sure that i am OK! When a guy calls a woman only on weekends or when he wants to go to a go-go club, it should signal to her what role she plays in his life. Do not waste your vagina stock on this guy. Avoid men who are guilt trippers. They make you feel guilty for not giving up the goods or complying with their demands. Do not wear your heart on your sleeves. Don't sleep with a man because you feel sorry for him , he won't be that pitiful when he dump you. He sees you as desperate and men dont stick around wimpy women. Who will sleeping around benefit? Men don't get censured by society for being promiscuous while women know its the cardinal rule not to let your numbers rise astronomically when it comes on to bed partners! Do not give sex to get commitment, instead ensure that he is willing to commit to you. You won't always know since some men are big time players, know the script back and front/ will get under your skin before you can say back off! Therefore sleep with a man only if the experience is worth far more than the fall out in your future. Men do not want to marry women who have played the field as much as they do. Most promiscuous women claims that they are hot girls but in reality most men perceive them as easy lays!Hence why despite their prevalence on the social scene, they cannot get any serious man to commit to them. A Man will quickly besmirch a good girls reputation but he will want to marry a virgin.

Are Men intimidated by Independent, Strong Women? Being the woman he cant afford to lose?

When i wrote why Jamaican Men do not LIKE Cerebral women, i was twenty years old and came home from the most unappealing date. The guy wanted me to sleep with him and i told him no...In my youthful ideological tone i told him that an intelligent girl like me would never sleep with a man less than a week after meeting him. I met Mr. Break My Heart the next morning in Montego Bay and fell in love and in a motel bed instantly. After copulation, he did not care one bit how smart and intellectual i was because he had gotten what he want! i remembered him saying that most independent women are not really strong. They just put up a granite front to stare beta males who are easily daunted by their status away from them. Strong Independent men break women and independent women are constantly having power struggles with their man. Men who settle for so call independent women are more interested in status and public opinion than a truly wholesome relationship. I need a woman, if i wanted a man, i would be Gay! http://youtu.be/b_Mct6taDeg Why is it difficult for most alpha females to get a man to stick around. One guy claims it is the narcissistic tendencies of independent Jamaican and their distasteful attitude. He claims most independent women lack sex appeal and a man is a visual creature hence he needs to find you attractive first and most independent women are not. A man cannot look at you and know that you are independent and strong. He will also know and does not care because he does not find you sexy or attractive. Men with Money dont care about one's independence, he can get attractive women, independent or co dependent a dime a dozen. You simply need to be the woman he cant afford to lose. You need to validate yourself and in turn he will see your value and be compelled to recognize and appreciate it. Here what a gentle man on Facebook had to say " Flexx Marc wrote : A lady send me this. The Naked Truth: Men will be dogs...dating will suck and relationships will be CRAPPY...until women GET some STANDARDS. Stop sharing penis...and sleeping around with MEN not knowing their relationship status....stop SETTLING for sex when you want LOVE......Your VAGINA, your POWER..... if Vagina was stock, it would be WORTHLESS...because so many women GIVE IT AWAY." i responded to his comment:I have written about this countless times, i dont think men are afraid of independent women yet the very thing that attracts the man to the independent woman is the same thing that ultimately pushes him away. The thing is most independent educated women think relationships are power struggles, they are not. STOP COMPETING WITH THE MAN! It doesn't matter what you have he will see you as a woman first and everything else after. Your accomplishments simply should complement your feminine body and demeanor! Be FUN and spontaneous! stop being so uppity and its all about me! He already knows your smart.. Use your wittiness, he can appreciate your intellect and laugh at your humour. And once a man can laugh when he is with you, he will never leave you, He loves that good feeling around you...AND GOOD SEX OF COURSE. While we are wagering for men to stop treating us like orifices for their phalli, we have forgotten that men expressed themselves through intercourse. What does the vacuous, uneducated girl that dresses like a strumpet have over us. She gives a good ride! Men will never give up good sex! I see some women talking about men not being able to match with their independence, headstrong values and views! My dears men do not care. They will sooner move on to the next pretty girl that won't give him as much trouble. I am promoting that one should lower their standards. I am advocating femininity! In this game to prove to men that we are more than a vagina, we have lost our woman hood in the process. Lets take it back a notch ehh!

The Greatest DATING philosophies: GET your DATE Doctor Book

Do not think i am not the type who hasn't bought those self help dating books, Yep i have been there. The last one i bought was "ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN". Steve did make some crucial points but we must be careful who we categorize people because everyone is not cut from the same mold. There's this popular belief that attractive men, alpha males do not date fat women. I have been overweight all my life and i have met anything but.... Just today a friend referred me to a page to check out a young entrepreneur. When i saw who his significant other was, i mean this man not only has money, he is handsome and has a damn great personality to go with it. He could get any girl he wanted if he put his mind to it but he is in love with this lady that most of our so call hot men would not even look at.... Its not the first time i am seeing this type of relationship. What is the lesson here? Work what you have! Someone might like it. My intention is never to mislead women into harmful situations but to impress upon them the necessary skills to deal with men and be spared some UNNECESSARY heartache. i am not by any means perfect, far cry from it. You will never know everything about men and they will never cease to amaze you. Do not do anything with a man if you don't feel comfortable, follow your instincts, never lower your standards , you should never be the only one to compromise in a relationship...What ever i write here or in my books is not set in stone. Take what's yours and leave the rest. Do not email me about what you liked or didn't like! This blog is meant to en-light you and my book is collated to empower you. Most men a hypocrite at best. You'd be surprise how quick men are to discredit a certain kind of women and will at opportunity jump into bed with them with the same alacrity...So do not always believe your man when he is quick to denigrate other females. He might not mean it and just trying to reassure you therefore engendering security. Same rule foes for men who cheat on their wives then use derogatory words about their mistresses to their wives when they get caught. If she was that bad and unfavorable, why did you sleep with her in the first place? AND DID IT FOR SO LONG? Don't believe that what you have in your head is exactly what you will get in a man... He wont have every single fine detail of what u desire. And we know that we women have every detail penciled out. Those that they come with different than we expect can be thought of as flaws or burdens; the choice is yours. But just remember, we too have things other than they expect...Not saying u should settle for less than you deserve but some things can be worked with or around. Patrice Townsend says Beware of those men who are loose cannons. Those are the most dangerous... They are the ones who have little self control, they fail to think logically... They are a disaster waiting to happen and you cant even help them because they are so entrenched in their twisted morals and beliefs; trying to help them is like telling a dead man to wake up.... These men lack one of the most critical elements in a relationship - LOYALTY! They arent even loyal to their own selves so dont expect them to be loyal to you. They latch on to any stronger force that comes along so they are never tied to anyone person. As soon as a stronger wind comes, they detach from one and latch to that. They are loose cannons You think they are for you but very few are those who are really for anyone but themselves these days. They are for what you are for and as soon as they see some else who can fulfill their desires; or as soon as they think you have done enough... They will leave you. They are not for you, they are for what you are for... So dont be surprised when he tells you hes not inlove with you anymore because he loves her now... Soon he will leave her too cause he loves someone else... Expect the unexpected. Do not ever ever ever put any man on a pedestal. Keep your expectations at ground zero. They will fail you faster than they make you better... Patrice Townsend So, some friends and I were having a conversation about Jamaican men. Note that the women are by no means bitter, they arent single and they arent lacking... Well none of them are married to or dating Jamaican men... The general consensus was that Jamaican men are a failure... After sieving through the sand, there really enough good Jamaican men. They fail you, their actions r despicable, attitude is nonchalant... That very same time i remember a convo i had with a Notary White Male about a particular young man... And he was like: Pat, im not surprised. I dont want it to seem as if im bashing your country men but they just do not have any sense of gratefulness, partnership, respect, loyalty or anything that has to do with a positive man-to-woman relationship. Yes we have sloppy white guys, sloppy indians, sloppy exists in every race and nationality but i think black men and Jamaican men (narrowed down) are still scarred by the plantation experience which those alive now have never had.. Profound words from Patrice Townsend

Stop Fooling Yourself about your Man: Buy Date Doctor Today

FIG 1. First issue of JAMAICA Date Doctor Series published June 2010 When i wrote volume one of my Jamaica Date Doctor Series and began this blog my heart was in shrapnel. I had met a man and fell deeply in love with him at first sight. He rejected my offerings of a relationship and i was very angry. I had said in my first paperback published locally that i was not mad at men. I lied! I loathe men. I probably still do . I could not bring myself to get close to any man. He was not to be primarily blamed. He was not the first male to end my non relationships early but i was angry at him because i liked him more than i did the rest. He was better looking than the rest, sexier, most women have; maybe once in their lifetime met their Cinderella complex. The guy who looked like he stepped out of a novel or fairy tale. He sure act the part too and i fell in love quickly and fell out just as easily. He had inadvertently ended my tragedy of getting involved with men who were emotionally unavailable to me, players, so call hot boys and men who simply wanted to have sex with me. They were never in love with me. They probably simply saw me as a pathetic easy lay. For all the intellectual quotes in my head and all the books i read, i lacked an "internal locus of control and could not for the most part convince my men to stick around". Well, he dumped me like a hot bread and i grew up like a strong wheat from thereon. Fig 2. Revised Edition 2013 My family is to be partially blamed for my failures in my relationships, they were never the best role models. My dad in an effort (quite meaningfully yes)...to prevent my sisters and i from being a statistic for teenage pregnancies made us believe sex was a despicable venture. An activity that would bring ignominy and public disgrace if we engaged in it. My dad made me believe that only wanton whores like to have sex and dirty little girls who had little or no ambitions. Hence i never made any real effort in bed, always ashamed of my body's response to a man's touch. How treacherous it is for always wanting what my dad had taught me to abhor. It took me three years to accept that i was a sexual being and that being horny was in fact natural and a good thing. I remembered when i dated this doctor and as we were having a drink in Negril at a luxurious Resort, he said quite frankly "out of the blue" 'You need to resolve the issues that you have with your father before you can have a healthy, meaningful relationship'. I looked at him as if he had just called me a nutcase. He was right on point. I love my father but i was averse to his parenting skills and thus became bitter towards him for depriving me of any fun in my teenage years. My father was simply overstrict and paranoid about my sister and i having boyfriends and sex. We were never to be seen with a boy or else Hell 's water would brew when we arrived home. People knowing how my father would react on the idea that any of us had a boyfriend would tell him about boys in order to make him apoplectic AND they would laugh. My dad in turn would give us a lecture on teenage pregnancies and why any guy who "breed" us would have to give him back every cent he spent on our education especially my overpriced ivy league one. He was not joking either. Fig 3. What does my dad have to do with my first true infatuation? He reminded me of my dad hence why i fell in love him. Loud, Angry and Abusive. He was older too and so i was with my dad all over again. I laughed so hard writing this preface for my Revised Edition of The JAMAICADATEDOCTOR SERIES. Why? Because i am five years older now and some of my ideologies have changed. I left the old preface in so that you could see the woman at 20 years old versus the woman at 25. My child's father is nothing like my heart throb or my dad. He is committed and he is a "softie". Sometimes he muses that i am spoilt that i need some men like my dad to box down and kick me". He too has picked upon my attraction to abusive men. My record speaks for itself. As women its never about finding Mr Right but settling sometimes for Mr. GOOD enough. Its not about who you love but who loves you. I always advice women, look at the man who we laugh at for being overly nice to us and the ones who we are chasing and obviously running away from us. The one man who we take for granted is treating us just the way we are to be treated but we are too busy chasing a man that wants only distance between us and him. This especially goes for my AMERICAN SISTERS who are marrying these emotional available men who are using and exploiting them. My advice is that every woman has the exact relationship that she wants. Every time you entertain the loser, he gets more powerful and you will find it more difficult to leave him. You can only drain the venom from your blood by ceasing communications all together, that's the only way you can get him out of your system.It will be a struggle to get a man to respect you who has little regard for you from the get go due to what you allowed him to get away with then. But that's all in the past now. I know why you bought this book or read my webpages. You are not some teenage girl empowering yourself with weapon of knowledge against men and if you are, please do not; i have been there and it doesn't work. What weapon do we need against men? Plain old common sense. How many of us knows the man doesn't really like us and is only in it for the sex or money or opportunities and a million other reasons than genuine affection? We have intuition! The distance between the truth and a lie is between your eyes and your ears, because don't matter what your ears hear, your eyes always see the truth. It doesn't matter what a man tells you (ears), his behavior often signals otherwise (eyes). He tells you he loves you (ears) yet he is never available for you, isn't interested in the fundamentals of your life and treats you like a nuisance in his life (eyes). ASK YOURSELF THIS NOW, WHAT IS IT THAT YOUR EYES SEE!!!!!!!!!! LOOK OUT FOR MY NOVEL!!!! Online and in Print June 02,2013